Well, How Does Gay Marriage Affect Your Marriage?

For Starters, Just Look North

843_4038369As you know, the US Supreme Court is expected to release their decision on the future of marriage anytime this month.  I saw an email from a liberal group here in Indiana, just yesterday, in which Homosexual activists are already predicting victory. They are also quick to add that their agenda doesn’t stop there. (It never stops.) The punishment of dissent and beliefs are next.

Not long ago, I had lunch with a ministry leader in Canada who also spends a great deal of time in the US.  We were talking about the persecution and threats that AFA of Indiana had received during the RFRA battle.  To my surprise, he said that he felt as though the culture in the US is more adamantly pro-homosexual than it is in Canada.

Now consider this.  Since the legalization of homosexual marriage in Canada, even though their law specifically claims to respect religious diversity, an average of two people a month have been prosecuted for believing marriage is a time-tested, gendered institution providing a child the best hope of having both a mom and a dad.  Right here in North America, between 200 and 300 ministers, churches or people of faith have been punished by the government for supporting natural marriage.

So when people flippantly throw out the question, “How will same-sex marriage hurt your marriage?”   Tell them to look to the north where Christians, pastors and churches have been identified, targeted, and drug into court for their beliefs.   Same-sex marriage hurts freedom of thought and conscience.  (By the way, the question is faulty, there are many things that may not affect my own marriage which I care deeply about or concern me.)

Eric Metaxas, who appropriately is the author of a best-selling book on Dietrich Bonhoeffer, wrote this excellent article on this that you should see and share with others.

How Does Gay ‘Marriage’ Hurt Us?  Here’s How

Christians are often asked by gay activists why they oppose same-sex “marriage.” “How does our marriage hurt you?” they ask.
Well, I can think of one significant way it will hurt us: It will destroy religious freedom and free speech rights.
The handwriting is on the wall in Canada, which legalized same-sex “marriage” in 2005, in effect completely changing its true meaning. Since then, as Michael Coren notes in National Review Online, “there have been between 200 and 300 proceedings … against critics and opponents of same-sex marriage.”  Of course he means legal proceedings.
For instance, in Saskatchewan, a homosexual man called a state marriage commissioner, wanting to “marry” his partner. The commissioner, an evangelical Christian, declined to conduct the ceremony for religious reasons. He simply referred the man to another commissioner.
But that was not enough for the gay couple. Even though they got their ceremony, they wanted to punish the Christian who had declined to conduct it.  The case ended up in the courts. And the result? Those with religious objections to conducting such ceremonies now face the loss of their jobs.
Canadian churches are also under attack. Coren writes that when Fred Henry, the Roman Catholic bishop of Calgary, Alberta, sent a letter to churches explaining traditional Catholic teaching on marriage, he was “charged with a human-rights violation” and “threatened with litigation.”
Churches with theological objections to performing same-sex “wedding” ceremonies are being threatened with the loss of their tax-free status. In British Columbia, the Knights of Columbus agreed to rent its building for a wedding reception before finding out that the couple was lesbian. When they did find out, they apologized to the women and agreed to both find an alternative venue and pay the costs for printing new invitations. But that wasn’t good enough. The women prosecuted, and the Human Rights Commission ordered the Knights of Columbus to pay a fine.
Of course, the lesbians knew perfectly well what the Catholic Church teaches about marriage, but they sought out a Catholic-owned building, anyway.
As Michael Coren puts it, “it’s becoming obvious that Christian people, leaders, and organizations are being targeted, almost certainly to create legal precedents”—precedents intended to silence and punish anyone who dares to disagree with so-called gay “marriage.”
If you think this couldn’t happen here, think again. This year [2012] we’ve seen ObamaCare attack the autonomy of Catholic churches by attempting to force them, in violation of Catholic teaching, to pay for contraceptives and abortifacients for church employees. And just last week, a lesbian employee of a Catholic hospital in New York sued the hospital for denying her partner spousal health benefits.

This is what we need to tell our neighbors when they ask us, “How does gay ‘marriage’ hurt us?”  It means that those hostile to our beliefs will attempt to bend us to their will to force us to not only accept gay “marriage,” but to condone it as well.
This is why I urge you to join the half-million Christians who have signed the Manhattan Declaration. Please sign it yourself by going to manhattandeclaration.org.
You and I must demonstrate love to our gay neighbors, of course, remembering that we are ultimately engaged in spiritual warfare. But we should boldly stand up when our rights as citizens and the demands of our conscience are threatened.

This column was originally published in June 2012. 
Eric Metaxas is an author and speaker best known for his in-depth best selling biographies  Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy and Amazing Grace: William Wilberforce and the Heroic Campaign to End Slavery.



Guest blogger, Micah Clark is the Executive Director for the American Family Association of Indiana.  His experience has helped AFA expand into an organization with a consistent state house presence while maintaining its role as Indiana’s leading decency organization. Since joining AFA of Indiana Micah has conducted nearly 600 media interviews as its executive director.

In 1989 Micah Clark graduated from Southwest Baptist University in Bolivar, Missouri with a bachelor’s degree in Political Science. Micah interned as a member of the Indiana House of Representatives’ Republican staff and later became an Assistant Campaign Manager for a State Senator.

In November 2001, Micah became the Executive Director of the American Family Association of Indiana. His experience has helped AFA expand into an organization with a consistent state house presence while maintaining its role as Indiana’s leading decency organization. Since joining AFA of Indiana Micah has conducted nearly 600 media interviews as its executive director.

Micah’s wife is a marriage and family therapist at a Christian counseling center. They have two children.

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

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